Rude and inconsiderate family member

I mentioned in my Tx Blog that sometimes you have to just say no and not feel bad about it.

Well, my sister called me last Saturday, 2 hours before I was going to take the kids to a church carnival and trick or treating. She said, "Oh your nephew (her son, Josh) has invited himself to go to the church carnival with you and stay the night."

Of course she put me on the spot, but I told her I would have to call her back.
And when I did, I told her that I just wanted to take my kids, but he could stay another time.

So she is not speaking to me right now.

Well, I ordered some Avon for my niece and I messaged my sister on Facebook and told her that my niece's Avon is in. And that I know she is mad at me over this past weekend.

She said in her reply, "Well, I was upset. And I have a lot going on so I won't be able to come get her Avon. I'll get it from you another time."

And I messaged her back and this is what I said.
Monica,
Doing things short notice freaks TC out a lot of the time. We had already had a pretty full day and he was cranky. I didn't stay long at the church thing, it was very small and made for little ones, not teens. But TC had fun anyways. Maybe next time we can plan a little more ahead. Sunday I had a 1400 word paper I had to write, so Saturday was not a good night for company. I have a lot going on too and I would never hurt anybody's feelings but sometimes you have to do what works for you and your family and hope that people don't get mad. Sara wanted Chelle to come over this weekend and I said, I have to work Saturday and besides that, it is Josh's turn to stay the night, he is next. I am not trying to be unfair, I have invited Josh and he had other things going on but he is welcome to stay after this weekend.



I mean, I get tired of having to lick her butt 24/7 and she doesn't know how dealing with a kid with Autism works. You can't just spring things on TC or all hell will break loose.

And I get even more tired of her (and other people) saying how much they have going on. I am busy too, HELL, I am working, going to school, mowing, cleaning, cooking, laundrying, and everything!! She rents her house and doesn't even have to mow, they do it for her.

But I try to be considerate and not ask anybody to help out with my kids. And if they offer I am grateful. But I do not expect it!

I really want to tell her to get over herself already!

Help, I need advice

I need some advice.

My sister has been coming over at 6:30 every Friday because she takes my nephew to football practice. She comes in and is VERY loud, always gets on the computer, basically interrupts my routine every Friday.
This morning, she got on the computer and checked my niece's grades and proceeded to bitch my niece out for failing a test.

In the midst of all of this, TC was having a meltdown over wanting to wear a costume at school (which I said no but told him he could carry it in his backpack). All the while, my sister is being so LOUD and obnoxious. I was stressed out.

She fussed at my niece and I gave my niece a ride to school and my niece was crying. She said, "They help Josh (who is my nephew) with all of his homework, but they can't help me with mine and if I make a bad grade, she stresses me out about it."

I felt so sorry for my niece.
And frankly, I don't even want my sister to come over anymore on Fridays. She interrupts my whole morning. It makes me so mad!

Should I tell her Hubby is sick next week so she doesn't come??

Emotions, my day, bad news

OMG, lots of drama lately with my sister. I cried a lot this week and I e mailed her. She keeps saying "Time will tell...you hurt me so bad."
And my response was that I can't BEG her to come around and I feel if she had not read my personal blog, she would not have been hurt.
I am tired of apologizing.

N-E ways, I had a great day today. Visited and old friend and her family (Hi KRISTI) yes, she has the same name as me!! I could kick myself for not taking pictures, I had my camera too!

She reads this blog and I was so excited to see her after many years. She won't be able to get rid of me now!! Love you girl!

Came home to bad news, hubby's uncle was cutting tree branches and one hit him in the head, he had to be rushed to the hospital and had bleeding internally. (In his brain.) Had to have surgery, but is still bleeding in his brain.

Prayers are much appreciated.

While I wait

When I posted the LETTERS this morning, I was still angry at my sister.

I went to work seething because I was up all night thinking of how she has treated me since she found my blog. I apologized more times than I can count and she told me if I didn't stop blogging, then that proved I wasn't really sorry.

I refuse to stop blogging. And I refuse to kiss her butt until the end of time.

I know I did say some things in my blog that hurt her. I don't deny that. It's just that she acts like I am the only one to blame in all of this. And I don't agree.

So today I came home and mowed and I listened to my music.

This is one I listened to.

I know God is faithful. I know he has a plan and until he fulfills it, I am waiting. I am praying for peace.