Monday, April 26, 2010

Do not judge me

I was going to type out a post about another recent comment I got in regards to my parenting of TC. Here is the thing, I am not going to waste my time because some vulture wants to go for the jugular on my parenting skills.

Let me just say that:
When I see my son's face smiling and hear him singing happily...I am grateful.

When I am able to cut his hair on the front porch (something that used to be horrid), I am grateful.

When I see his wonderful drawings of Spiderman...I am grateful.

When I have an IEP without crying .....I am grateful.

I can walk into a store and see a parent struggling with a tantruming and I can be compassionate and non-judging. And I can see that they are grateful for the smile, or the nod, or the look on my face.

I can get frustrated with things, especially TC's behavior but I stick it out and pray for a better tomorrow.
And I continue to do my best even if some days my best does not feel good enough.

Thankfully I have some great people who understand what it is like day in and day out and those who want to judge me can kiss my you know what!


Jodi said...

Good for you! NO ONE knows what it is like in your shoes day in and day out, so they have no right to say anything. I get so sick of people thinking they know better than me about my kids when they only glimpse a small sample of what our lives truly are. I am certain both TC and Sara see how much you love them EVERYDAY and, to me, that is the most important thing.

Melissa H said...

Kristi, you might want to get a sitemeter and check to see if the nasty comments are coming from Hempstead, NH. A bunch of us a few years ago had a troll from there, who clearly knew some stuff about autism and ABA, attack us about every little thing about our kids. We stopped allowing anonymous comments, and then we eventually all went private with our blogs. It might be the same troll and they just love when you create a post specifically to address their idiocy.

Try not to let it bother you (I know, it bothered me too) and don't give the troll any satisfaction. xxoo

Zephra said...

It is so hard to parent and I am guilty of commenting sometimes about a child's behavior. I catch myself saying something in my head and then remember that time that Zakary lost his mind in the middle of Target and there was nothing I could do to stop it. That usually shuts me up quick.

Katy and Ross said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog the other day :)

I work with kids constantly and there is this amazing thing called payback. You know those people that give you dirty looks because your kids throws a tempertantrum in the middle of the store? I have seen three families like that who now have hellions-cute hellions-but hellions none the less and I just laugh. Maybe if they had been nicer when they saw a struggling parent, they wouldn't be struggling now!

It sounds like you're doing a great job with your kids!

Shilo said...

reading your post makes me feel for you. I have felt & thought many of the same things. your words make me smile & want to cry all at the same time.
love your page:-)

C said...

i am just getting to know you and i just wanna say that no one knows what it is like to be in your shoes... no matter what we live with. and those who judge you are ignorant. let their words roll off the back of your heals as if you stepped in a big pile of dog poop...


Bina said...

Some people just do NOT know what it's like unless they have been there. I hate judgemental people who THINK they know everything. Every single kid, parent, and situation is different, and the more people realize that, and mind their own business, the better for everyone, ya know?

meemawfish said...

I love this blog and you are so right.